I remember the first time I understood the importance of an apology.  I was newly married to my husband.  We had just had an argument.  I was suffering greatly, feeling alone and angry.  I didn’t know how I was going to repair the damage of the words spoken. At the time, we were living in an apartment that was basically one long, large room.  The bedroom had a few steps  [ Read More ]

I was reading an article the other day about how our energy gets drained by other people and things in our lives.  The article was stating that we allow vital energy to be taken from us when we “tolerate” things and actions of people around us. For example, if you live in a messy home where things aren’t organized and there are papers piled high on your table so you  [ Read More ]

When my daughter Katie was stillborn in 1987, I immediately identified myself as a grieving mother.  I lived with this identity for years.  It went underground when my twins were born and I became very busy with their day to day care. However, when they became teenagers and didn’t need me so much, and in fact, rejected the fact that they even had a mother, my old identity of a  [ Read More ]

When someone says something to me and “hurts my feelings”, I am BEING a person who has hurt feelings.  The hurt feeling seems automatic to us and most of us think that we don’t have any control over the emotion that is felt.  When we can identify WHERE the emotion came from–like when a person says something that hurts us–we say that the feeling came from this particular source, but  [ Read More ]

How to Stay Calm in the Midst of External Overwhelm The financial crisis is on every news channel, every radio station, every newspaper.  How is all of this affecting you? I listen and think I’m not reacting, but then when I’m alone, or when I’m writing checks to pay bills, or when a client cancels for some reason, I get caught up in the fear. All the “what ifs” start  [ Read More ]

I had seven wonderful women at my office last week celebrating my birthday.  There was almost one woman for each decade, but not quite.  Not only did we celebrate my birthday, but what I wanted to celebrate was the Divine Feminine or the Goddess in every woman. We had a great time and toward the end, I had each woman pick a card from Doreen Virtue’s Goddess Guidance Oracle Cards  [ Read More ]

We got cable TV in December for the first time ever.  It came in a bundle with our new FIOS internet, so what could we do? I spent a lot of time channel surfing over the holidays, and the one show that I couldn’t stop watching was “The Dog Whisperer” with Cesar Millan.   I had read two of his books and tried to apply some of his dog psychology toward  [ Read More ]